Thank-you I'll be watchng for your ideas.

I've posted a thread entitled God and His people -- Love, judgment, a balance?.

Thanks for your post. Posts like yours are the meat of this forum.  They let everyone who comes here know what CS is like.  SO many have the same story to tell. Its a very very difficult story to read, but its very very important that people know.

Coming to this forum and posting is a good way to vent and, as you said, it DOES provide a tremendous amount of validation to the hurts and frustrations we have felt regarding CS, because others have felt the very same things, others have walked the same path.

I recall riding in the car once with my mother in law....the CS practitioner, when my children were little. (I took them to doctors) I must have had one with me and he must have been crying about something.  What I vividly remember is my mother-in-law relating a story about a little boy who got his fingers slammed in a car door and how he didnt cry...as if all little boys should aspire to that kind of "perfection".

Honestly, just thinking about it now makes my hair stand up.   This little story epitomizes my mother in law...and our relationship.

Square Peg