Your story sounds so familiar and probably hits very close to home with more people than you can even imagine!  I totally can relate to your position regarding your mother just up and moving and also having to live under the accusation of you practicing "M.A.M."  It is hurtful beyond imagination when all it is a deep love for the person and a sincere concern.  It is as if they are accusing one of being the devil himself!

I am no expert, but as far as I know the CS facility will not allow medicine.  Since they are not qualified and are forbidden to diagnose and treat disease, they would more than likely refuse to accept a patient that is in need of medication.  I was even told that they do not follow dietary recommendations.  They don't even treat dehydration properly.  How could they, if they don't even diagnose or treat disease?  My mother died in one of those facilities and I belive her death was caused by CS and was even  hastened by the lack of common sense treatment.  She also cut off all communication from the family at the end.  We never even got to say good-bye or acknowledge the death in a normal way.  CS causes so much hurt and pain to families that I believe this is one of the main reasons it is quickly dying.  The ridiculous fear of M.A.M. creates unnecessary and painful estrangements.  It was always so strange to me that they believed that evil was not real but were obsessed with worrying about people's thoughts! 

Caregiving becomes dangerous when caregivers don't recognize (or, at least, won't treat) basic "medical" problems like dehydration. I have always wondered why, if a CSist will take liquid by mouth, he or she considers it spiritually counterproductive to take liquid directly through a vein. Either way, the liquid is entering the body for the same purpose. Any CSist who has ever said, "I'm thirsty," should be willing to admit that adding liquid to the body is addressing the condition called "deyhdration."

I know that, when people enter a CS nursing home, they do so with the understanding that they will not receive painkillers -- or even food and water if these have to be given by any means other than swallowing. But I suspect that many of these people simply don't understand the benefits of these simple measures and the consequences of not receiving them. Sometimes simple "medical" intervention like an I.V. for dehydration can get a person through a rough spot and allow them to get better, but not receiving that intervention costs them their life. That's a tragedy.

No, I haven't forgotten anything -- and I did "get it." When I was in CS, I considered an IV to be "medical' as much as any CSist does. I didn't realize the absurdity of the "mouth vs IV" issue until several years after leaving CS, when I heard about a practitioner giving liquid, by mouth, to an unconscious child. I was very disturbed by the idea of giving liquid to an unconscious person because of the choking hazard is presents, and the absurdity of the "mouth vs IV" issue became clear. "What's the difference," I asked myself, "between giving liquid by a straw in the mouth and a straw in the arm? Why would a practitioner think it's spiritually acceptable to deliver liquid to an unconcious kid's mouth but not his arm?" Of course I knew the answer (a straw in the arm is, by definition, "medical"), but the question highlights the absurdity of the "medical" vs "non-medical" issues people often face in CS.

I understand that you and others avoid doctors because of their shortcomings, but that's not really the point here. Everyone should (and most do) approach doctors with the understanding that they are seeking help from a bunch of flawed people using an imperfect healing system. That's a huge difference from CS, which is presented as a perfect healing system. If you'll forgive the business analogy -- consumers of medicine are told that there are risks, while consumers of CS are told that, if they apply the system correctly, there are no risks. That's an apples-and-oranges situation in my opinion.