 Posted Saturday, September 08, 2007 11:15 AM
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Please let me know if another thread already exists related to this topic so we can switch to it instead. What prompts me to raise the issue is that on a recent reconnection with an old CS acquaintance (after being out of touch for a decade), our conversation was able to go deeper than the superficial words sometimes exchanged between a present and a former CSist. I was really impressed that she initiated the conversation and pursued it, knowing that I, too, had faced a relationship which evolved into domestic violence, sometimes fueled by alcohol on the part of the abuser.
One of the reasons I like to reconnect with my CS peers from the past is that they are occasionally open to discussing negative issues which they may not feel comfortable/safe discussing within their CS circle. There was something refreshing about addressing this issue years later with a friend with whom I shared some common ground. I feel it is very important to get this issue out of the darkness & into the open, to call it what it is, get the help needed for both the abused and the abuser and definitely not quietly remain in an unhealthy relationship while being counselled to "just see the perfect man".
I acknowledge that staying within a physically abusive relationship would not be the typical advice of a CS practitioner once help is sought, but the victim keeping quiet about it and NOT seeking help in or out of CS may be characteristic of a confused CSist who fears talking about something so "inharmonious".
I would be interested in knowing if any others out there have found help & healing from support groups
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